When a fight is resolved, why do the feelings of despair drift away? Why do humans forget about the bad and look towards the good? Is there a reason why we want to forget about the past, or can we look at the past, not ignore it, and actually put it to good use?
When is it time to forgive? Why do you forgive? What propels someone to continue on?
However I look at it, I find myself lost in a sea of questions - i realize that when i post about this it's not because i haven't found answers, i do know that i have found at least some answers, but what i wish to talk about are all the questions. The more i get some answered, the more I find new questions.
What causes "love"? What balance is there in the equation of love? When does personality outweigh attraction, and when does an overwhelming personality cause someone to look at an unattractive person, and find they are now attractive?
Again, this topic is a touchy subject to me as well, and I'm as unaware as you are. This is a lot of questions! I think one should keep in mind what one gained from solving an argument and remember what started the argument in the first place, but make sure that you keep in mind why you like this person in the first place. If you can't still say that, you got into the relationship for the wrong reason. Think of it like this: would you be friends with this person if they had not attracted you in the first place?
ReplyDeleteAs for the despair aspect, it dissipates because you are no longer having difficulty. Unresolved conflict causes despair. Focusing on the positive or negative exclusively is also a bad thing. It cannot be done forever. Your perception of the world should be a balanced mixture of the two.
I can't think of more to say at this time. The other post inspired me more because there was a visible tension and drama. Writers thrive on drama. All humans do, illogically. Anyways, I hope someone else can answer your questions better. Still thought provoking!
Fascinating, delving into emotion from a logical perspective is engaging to say the least. I don't know about despair, it's relatively foreign to me. As for optimism, I think people tend to think positively unless they are so whittled down on a particular subject that they choose to think negatively to avoid disappointment. Avoiding the past is an interesting topic, I guess that some memories are meant to slip away, it is not necessarily the person's choice so find uses for those that prove tenacious enough to remain. As for forgiveness, I way out my options before choosing whether or not to get even. What propels me to move on when I have been wronged? A drive to succeed mixed with an unnatural indifference to most situations superceeds any sort of frustration I may be feeling. As for love, you know better than I do, I guarantee it. What a person believes can outweigh the judgements of other people and that would make the individual at hand come to the logical conclusion of 'if it works it works' if not, end it 'Venn Diagram style'. What works is what is to be interpreted there. I believe that personality outweighs emotional connection, but I'm biased in that aspect so that may not be completely truthful... Great questions posed, even though answering them is a bit daunting.
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